Never Been in Therapy? Two Types of Clients
Einstein said you can’t solve a problem from the same consciousness that created it. Often, you get stuck because you can’t get out of that consciousness, that frame of mind, that frozen perspective, the one that got you where you are in the first place. That being said, there are two types of clients who come in to therapy (there are others, but I’m covering two that I see the most…)
Client Group #1:
One of my jobs is to help you entertain other perspectives, points of view, awarenesses, angles, sources of information, resources, alternatives…
Something in your life is not working. It may be your limiting beliefs, an ill-advised, or simply difficult relationship, a job that is not a good fit, lack of social support, low self-esteem, or feelings of depression or anxiety that you just can’t seem to shake.
If you could figure it out easily yourself, you would have done so already. Duhhh. But for whatever reason, this time you can’t. Having somebody else help you just makes sense. It’s not working on your own, at least right now.
Client Group #2:
This group of clients wants to talk through situations in their lives. They’re not depressed, not terribly anxious, not actively dealing with trauma, so-called bipolar, or anything big.
A recent client put it right on the table: “There’s just a lot of shit going on in my life, and I want to have a time and a place to process it with somebody who is objective, and doesn’t have an agenda other than to listen and be helpful.”
A lot of people (myself included) find this kind of help enormously useful. You block out a time for yourself, where YOUR life comes first, and you take a reflective moment to think about where you are going, and how it feels to be you these days. You just want to live a little more consciously, and intentionally, and talking with someone else helps a lot…
So “being in therapy” is not really all that mysterious. And, depending on your insurance, it might be free, or close to it. (See my blog on that topic…)
Good luck in thinking about whether therapy or counseling (same thing) might be helpful for you. If I can be of any assistance, please contact me at:
Jim Nolan, Ph.D.