Posts by James Nolan
Posted September 15th, 2017 by & filed under Featured, Musings on Coaching.
When Men Want Big Changes in Their Lives
(And Somebody Ain’t Happy About It…) ---by Jim Nolan
“To thine own self be true.” --Polonious
This kind of advice can be found in many variations, and in many traditions. Though this example comes from a blowhard old fart in Shakespeare’s Hamlet, it still…
Posted September 9th, 2017 by & filed under Featured, Musings on Therapy.
Doc Nolan presents some perspectives on alcohol abuse, addictions, and "harm reduction."…
Posted September 3rd, 2017 by & filed under Featured, Miscellaneous Melange of Blog Chotchkas, Musings on Coaching, Musings on Therapy.
Men in their 50's and 60's often are very stuck, their experiences misunderstood, even by themselves...…
Posted August 25th, 2017 by & filed under Poetry.
There are not Four Directions,
as there are not Seven Chakras.
There is no Holy Trinity,
as there is no “New Mexico.”
It is OK to pretend,
to tell these stories,
and it is a lot better
that we are pretending,
that we are…
Posted August 21st, 2017 by & filed under Featured, Musings on Being an INFP.
Extroverts Do Not “Get” Introversion --by Jim Nolan
Oh, they may think they do. They don’t. Many of them still think it's shyness, or social anxiety, or just needing to be encouraged some more. "C'mon, Big Guy, you can too sing Karaoke!!!" It's none of those things.
Of course there will be your occasional…
Posted August 14th, 2017 by & filed under Featured, Musings on Coaching.
What I Am Looking for in a Life Coach
--by Dr. James Michael Nolan
Let me help you think about how to find the right Life Coach. (The important point is NOT that you agree with me, but that you really think about what is right for you…this piece…
Posted August 12th, 2017 by & filed under Featured, How to Use the Principle of Attraction.
--by Dr. James Michael Nolan
A lot of people get caught up in all kinds of details and what-ifs when it comes to the so-called “Law of Attraction” (which I happen to call the Principle of Attraction, for reasons you can read about…) Some people end up wanting to fight about it.…
Posted August 5th, 2017 by & filed under Featured.
“Of COURSE I Have ADHD—Right?”
So recently I found myself saying (on several different occasions) “Oh, I’m sure I’m ADD or ADHD, though I’ve never been diagnosed.” I’m always moving a million miles an hour, high speed trains running through my head, a thousand projects going at once, and all the usual Welcome…
Posted July 23rd, 2017 by & filed under Poetry.
On Reading “In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts” by Gabor Mate’
--by Jim Nolan 7-22-2017
I had the great pleasure of hanging out a bit with Gabor Mate when he was here in Santa Fe at our Transformation & Healing Conference. I also had the honor to introduce him to the conference, but…
Posted July 5th, 2017 by & filed under Featured, Poetry.
We Are Sworn Enemies, Cesar Y Yo
I Punish My Enemy
Of course we are enemies,
Cesar and I,
So I give him my Cleveland Indians hat,
American beisbol cards,
And a stash of drugs he cannot buy
On the streets of Habana: Ibuprofen.
Posted July 1st, 2017 by & filed under Featured, Musings on Coaching, Musings on Therapy.
I am getting a lot of calls these days for my private practice. Thankfully, my clients almost always tell me why they called me (rather than, or in addition to, the thirty-seven thousand OTHER therapists in Santa Fe…) It’s almost always about two things. OK,--let's call it three.
My profile felt genuine,…
Posted May 19th, 2017 by & filed under Featured, Musings on Coaching, Musings on Therapy.
I am a Psychotherapist, or a Counselor, or a Life Coach, or something along those lines.
My clients often inspire me. When we are hitting our stride, when the stars line up, I get to walk with them through the blooming of their lives. It’s humbling when it goes like that…
Posted May 15th, 2017 by & filed under Featured, Musings on Therapy.
Dr. Jim has a thing or two to say about marketing your practice...…
Posted May 15th, 2017 by & filed under Featured, Musings on Coaching.
These days it seems most "Coaches" I see in social media (especially on Instagram) do not want to actually Coach. They want to sell me their "How YOU can Become a Coach in Five Easy Steps" program.
And it seems that most Law of Attraction people on social media have not actually…
Posted May 14th, 2017 by & filed under Featured, Musings on Coaching, Musings on Therapy.
Psychologist, Life Coach, or Both?!?
You don’t have to be a licensed Psychologist to also do Life Coaching, but man, it sure helps.
My experience over time has been that my sessions with clients drift many times, often within the same session, between “Coaching Stuff” (identifying client strengths and dreams,…
Posted April 9th, 2017 by & filed under Featured, Musings on Therapy, Poetry.
A poem on Empowerment.....…
Posted April 3rd, 2017 by & filed under Featured, How to Use the Principle of Attraction, Musings on Therapy.
How Dr. Jim approaches therapy...…
Posted March 17th, 2017 by & filed under Featured.
Jim Nolan offers private practice tips...…
Posted March 8th, 2017 by & filed under Featured.
Playing Catch as Ceremony by Jim Nolan
Somebody who didn’t know baseball might have seen the five of us out there and call it “Guys throwing baseballs on the beach.” But you might call somebody nailing a Mozart Sonata “Guy plunking keys”, or a Lakota Pipe Ceremony “Dudes going out for a smoke"…
Posted February 28th, 2017 by & filed under Featured, Poetry.
It's the Oddest Thing
There is not much time left,
but we agree not to talk about it--
It's the oddest thing,
but there it is.
I can't decide whether to
"make every moment count"
or just not think…
Posted February 25th, 2017 by & filed under Featured.
Jim strolls the French Quarter at dawn, and reflects...…
Posted February 23rd, 2017 by & filed under Featured.
New Orleans is Not Like Bombay
by Jim Nolan, President, Therapist, Life Coach
That being said, being in New Orleans, and my draw to New Orleans brings Bombay to mind…
I find that what my mind has no familiar model for, I tend to experience as “chaos.” It’s not,…
Posted February 22nd, 2017 by & filed under Featured, How to Use the Principle of Attraction.
Questions come to mind:
Is something "Sacred" because somebody claims it to be so? (That seems random...)
Is one lake sacred while others are not? (That seems unlikely...)
Is everything sacred, but not everything is honored by being named so by the people living around it? (Hmmm...)
Is something "Sacred"…
Posted February 22nd, 2017 by & filed under Featured.
OK, so at Goorin's Hat Store in the Quarter, the young lady tries to steer me in "a certain direction" old White guys go, and I just named it--"I am not doing 'Old White Guy goes Indiana Freakin'' Jones', like "yeah, dude, I'm still bringin' badass, if you want any...". Yeah, no... So I go…
Posted February 17th, 2017 by & filed under Featured.
Me & Al & My Life
So I was a freshman at The Ohio State University, and lied about my residence status so that I could avoid living in a dorm, and instead live with my lifelong friend and Cleveland neighbor Tommy Philip and some guys he knew. That’s how the Al thing…
Posted February 13th, 2017 by & filed under Featured, How to Use the Principle of Attraction.
"You can't get sick enough to make the sick ones well, and you can't get poor enough to make the poor ones abundant, and you can't get weak enough to make the weak ones strong, and you can't dis-empower yourself enough to make the dis-empowered ones feel empowered." Abraham says that a lot...
Posted February 13th, 2017 by & filed under Featured, Poetry.
Restless Night, Man by Jim Nolan
Soft, allegedly harmless snow falls
I can’t sleep
Tho it’s 3:30
I look toward morning
With no joy,
And know that is a bad sign
Yes, the earth spins,
But I’m standing still,
Posted February 12th, 2017 by & filed under Featured, Musings on Coaching, Musings on Therapy.
Hi...I am a Therapist and a Life Coach. I have had an incredible run at manifesting in my life, and I don’t even think I’m very good at keeping my thinking clean and positive. OMG, I can get whiny, negative, blaming, and all blah blah blah about the world, people I work with, and on…
Posted February 8th, 2017 by & filed under Featured.
Some of you have asked about my losing some weight.
I do not do "diets." That being said, I am doing a diet. OK, they call it a "Lifestyle Change." Whatever. The Keto diet, high fat, VERY low carbs, medium Protein (unlike the Atkins HIGH protein.) In the state of "ketosis", we burn "ketones",…
Posted February 6th, 2017 by & filed under Musings on Therapy.
What We Need in Our Lives: A Therapist’s Observations, by Jim Nolan
Something to look forward to. OK, I get the “Now” thing, and that’s coming up on this list. But Now, the way Now has been Nowed in the psycho-spiritual literature, is never enough for many of us. Sometimes “Now” is creating…
Posted January 26th, 2017 by & filed under Featured.
I’m an Irishman from the Midwest—that’s an Irish-man, and we don’t cry all that often. We just don’t. We could get all psychologistic and multicultural about that, but that is not where my head and heart are tonight…
My point is tonight that I have been spending time online researching Wire Haired Fox Terrier…
Posted December 28th, 2016 by & filed under Featured, How to Use the Principle of Attraction, Musings on Therapy.
Empowerment as a Choice: Victimhood as a Choice --by Jim Nolan
Life happens. People do what they do, elect who they elect, love what they love, get into against-ness with what they get into against-ness with, decide who will be their Personal Satan and who will be their Second Coming.
Posted December 24th, 2016 by & filed under Featured, Musings on Therapy.
Dr. Jim Nolan is having a banner year in his private practice. Here's why. Maybe. …
Posted December 11th, 2016 by & filed under Featured, Musings on Therapy.
IATSE 480 And Mental Health
I happen to know a lot of people in the movie industry, many of them IATSE 480 people, New Mexico Union.
What a life!!
Working twelves, fourteens, sixteens, occasionally more… (there IS no “No thanks, I’m kind of pooped” in this field—work it,…
Posted November 23rd, 2016 by & filed under Featured.
Make a New Year’s Resolution to Get Back into Therapy or Coaching
Can you make changes in your life on your own?
Heck, yeah. We all do, all the time.
Can it help to have a therapist/coach on your side as you do so?
Heck, yeah. We all know that, too.
Posted November 20th, 2016 by & filed under Featured, Musings on Therapy.
Some therapists are bus drivers, some cabbies.
Bus drivers have set routes. It’s where they go, and it’s important for them to keep to timelines. They stop where they are scheduled to stop, not necessarily where you were wanting to get off and look around.
Cabbies invite you in, and say “Where you…
Posted November 13th, 2016 by & filed under Miscellaneous Melange of Blog Chotchkas.
Almost a year into my (most recent) private practice, and here is what I am learning:
• Insurance is a great thing. For the client, for me. They get services, I get paid. Also, I realize that whereas a flat-out Coaching Business (which I thought I wanted, and probably do, eventually), would require my…
Posted September 6th, 2016 by & filed under Featured, Musings on Coaching, Musings on Therapy.
Dr. J talks about two kinds of clients he sees the most...…
Posted September 5th, 2016 by & filed under Featured, Musings on Therapy.
For Many, Personal Counseling is Free
You probably did not know that.
If you have insurance, you may very well be eligible for free personal counseling. If you have Medicaid, it is very likely. If you have New Mexico Health Connections, Presbyterian, Blue Cross/Blue Shield, your might be free of cost, or very…
Posted July 29th, 2016 by & filed under Featured, Musings on Therapy.
Jim offers some early learning on private practice profiles...…
Posted July 10th, 2016 by & filed under Featured, How to Use the Principle of Attraction, Musings on Therapy.
Observations on who seems to come see me in Private Practice...…
Posted July 4th, 2016 by & filed under Featured, Musings on Therapy.
"Therapists" do not actually DO therapy. Why, then, do we use that word?…
Posted July 2nd, 2016 by & filed under Featured, Musings on Therapy.
Private Practice is an Entrepreneurial Endeavor, and that is a GOOD thing.....…
Posted July 1st, 2016 by & filed under Featured, Musings on Therapy.
What's the difference between Counseling, Psychotherapy, & Therapy?…
Posted July 1st, 2016 by & filed under Featured, Musings on Therapy.
For many, Counseling these days is free, or close to it. A lot of people don't know that yet...…